
This subject is a favourite bugbear of a friend of mine, and it has never been so apparent as it is for me now.
It is the startling inability of people to actually listen to others. I have been, for reasons I won’t go into too much detail about here (lest I begin an unseemly and undignified rant which is likely to run into several thousand words. See, I’ve started already!) made to realise the glaring truth of this statement over the past week or so.
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Kill them. Kill them all.
don't let them hit you babe! when something like that happens to me, i look at the person in the eyes and i start a brand new converstion with myself - I chose a topic that is a little taboo, take a good breath and speak calmly and clearly. then the guy looks at you and stop talking and then i walk away.
it doesn't change the world but at least i don't become blue -just the power of words
Two good pieces of advice, thanks. Though I am leaning towards the former at the moment.
KILL THEM!!
Yes. Kill them. Kill them all. It's all so simple now
You know, ep does have a point.
What I fucking hate most are people who start playing with their mobiles when you're halfway through a conversation.
They know who they are.
ep is definitely right. I'm getting some Travis Bickle sliding gun dispensers fitted this weekend. And shaving my head.
"You talkin' to me?"
It would help if there were a common acknowledgement of how communication works. Then we can just ask if people actually want to communicate. Anyone who answers "no" automatically loses any position of power and responsibility.
But surely everyone wants to communicate (apart from hermits {apart from Herman's Hermits, who clearly did want to communicate})?
The issue is about the quality of communication. For some, it's purely about 'Listen to me!' while for others it might partly be about 'Let's hear what you have to say, and then listen to what I have to say.'
I'm occasionally prepared to change my point of view if I'm persuaded by another human, whereas many people are not. So - KILL THEM!
Your first assumption is wrong, I think. What's your definition of 'communication'?
How can you say that Nancy? We loved telling people that we were Henery the Eighth (we were we were) I'm deeply hurt.
Communication could be defined as many things.
Mostly - in my humble opinion - it's a cry from the heart. Because so few people listen to us, we all shout louder in different ways.
Some are lucky that they are heard, others say that they couldn't care less if they are heard or ignored. Ultimately it's the voice of one crying in the wilderness.
It might be most useful to define communication as, at the most basic level:
Information ------------>Idea
(with Information being defined as: Everything in the Universe, and idea being defined as the response to the information.)
I think this covers everything from the kiss of a billiard ball to the songs of Kiss, or of course, Herman's Hermits.
It can also be seen from this that two people are required for communication. With both being active for good communication.
Also, the woofing of dogs is basically the same as a lot of woofing (and tweeting) by people. It alters our body chemistry in apleasing fashion.
Where we can take it up a gear is in the checking of our ideas and those of others, but this doesn't usually happen because people are, more often than not, trained not to communicate as well as encouraged to see good communication as a bad thing. It's because of this that I don't think it's correct to say that people want to communicate generally. They are avoiding it as they have been trained to do. How else to explain the lack of people responding to Obama's information of 'change' with 'what kind of change?'. In a decent communicative situation, this question would then be answered by "I'm gonna ramp up the war in Afghanistan!", to which might be sensibly said, "Well you can get lost then."
However, let's take 'a cry from the heart' as our starting point. Could you elaborate on this please?
Essentially, I am in agreement with you. My belief is that we (us mingers) have an itching desire to a) listen and b) be listened to. We are after all social animals. The problem is that our hierarchical genetics get in the way, and we feel (for a variety of reasons) afraid to say what we really want to say, in case we are ridiculed by those ahead of us in the chain. This leads to repression and sublimation, and ultimately to Obama, Brown, Hitler, Pol Pot, my boss, etc.
That is why I feel that we are all crying from the heart.
Goodnight.
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